|In every job that must be |
done, there is an element
of fun. So too with teens.
These are the things that are great about having teenagers.
1. There is someone besides you who can carry in groceries and put them away. They are too old to pretend that the bags are too heavy or they don't know where stuff goes.
2. You can say stuff to them that you couldn't when they were little, because it would have seemed mean or inappropriate. Things like "I don't know why you're so bad" or "I am finding you extremely annoying right now." You don't want to say things like that all the time, but when you do, your child will hardly flinch at all and you will feel slightly less annoyed once you've said it.
3. They can be in on the joke. When kids are little and you are at the mall or the playground you don't have anyone you can point out the freaks to. A 4-year-old isn't going to share a raised-eyebrow look with you upon spying another mom who had to wax just to wear jeans that low. Your 8-year-old will not join you in judging the parents of the kid wearing a bathing suit outside to play in February.
4. You don't have to do homework anymore. They know you can't help them. Even for things you could help with, they don't want to give you the satisfaction. Fine by me.
5. There is a chance your child will have clothes and shoes that you can fit into and want to wear. They pretty much have to share, but you are not obligated to return the favor.
6. If they want take-out for lunch or dinner, you can get them to call and order it. If it's wrong when it gets to the house, no one can blame you.
7. No more babysitters! There are some glitches in regard to your kids having friends over if you want to go out, but for the most part, you can go do what you need to/want to do and be relatively certain that when you return your kids will be there and the house won't be on fire.
8. You can drop your teens at the mall or movies and return to get them when they are done. You will no longer have to sit through movies you don't want to see or spend 25 minutes in Claire's (which is a 3 minute store).
9. They can arrange their own carpools/rides. I can tell my kids that I will drive either way and let them work out the details. Even if I am driving both ways, I don't have to call 10 moms to see who is where and what time they want to go.
10. It is now less unseemly to have your kids making you drinks. Yes, I know it's not ideal, but it's like cooking or laundry, they have to learn sometime and why shouldn't you benefit from their practice? You could probably start kids earlier than their teens on this task, but 1st graders tend to be heavy pourers and they will totally go through your pockets if given the opportunity. Don't worry how I know this.