The fact that they can copy human behavior in the workplace, and for the most part their behavior seem to improve with age, shows that men can learn how to act with the proper guidance and a lot of patience. As many of you know, the amount of patience required is often more than can be conjured up without the help of liquor and/or jewelry.
|This is just the average way|
a boy will say "Good Morning, I
like your shirt."
News flash. No one thinks you're gay. No one cares if you're gay. Including gay people. That being said, it is not necessary to call attention to the fact that your friend is stupid, fat, lazy or bald and come up with a rude nick name. It's just mean. Of course, no male people will admit it's mean. They all pretend they think it's funny and normal. No woman is going to going to say (loudly, for all to hear) to her friend "Oh my God, I can't believe you're eating more pizza! You're already fat enough." Sure, we might talk behind each other's back, but we're not looking to embarrass each other.
|This is the fraternity|
The Party was in. All his brothers
were very manly.
Other things that are not manly (in the mind of men only):
* asking for directions/ reading assembly directions
* thoughtfully choosing the group greeting card and getting everyone to sign it
* complimenting another man on anything
* sharing feelings with a close friend (having a close friend at all is questionable)
* not finishing a beer, even if you don't want anymore
* dancing with a group of guys
|I know you thought I |
was making this up when
I described it.
There is also the bag aversion. Bags of all sorts. If they have a lot crap to carry from home, it's not going with them if it doesn't fit into their pockets. They are not even sure which is worse, a leather man-purse or if you put everything in a handled-shopping bag for them. And at a store? If a salesperson asks if they need a bag, their go-to answer is "no." Doesn't matter what they bought. They are fine if handed their merchandise in a bag, but the mere act of being questioned sends a message that anyone who needs a bag is a wuss, so therefore, they don't need a bag.
Figuring out the bill and splitting it evenly and then handing in their money also causes angst for our guys. If everyone owes any amount between $15.01 and $19.99 and everyone has a twenty, no one will admit to wanting/needing change. They give a casual "whatever" as if it would be too unseemly, too gauche, too downright unmanly to want their change.
It really is no wonder that we women often find men to be inattentive or insensitive. How can they possibly pay the correct amount of attention to us when their every waking moment is filled with making sure not to seem un-manly or inventing things that make noises like burps and farts?